I will get married. Yahoo!
HELLO, my personal stalker.
It been a while since my last post on this blog. I have a long history of mental health issue and physical concern as well. After settling down all of the broken parts in my life, I want to update a bit about my next chapter of my adulthood timeline.
I am currently engaged to someone that know me for about 1.5 years. We get along as friends at first, luckily it ends up as a serious relationship. Then we decided to make commitment for long term a.k.a marriage. It was not as easy as you imagine, but alhamdulillah both of us can manage till recent.
Long short story, we submitted the requirements for marriage already. I asked recommendation letter from my origin country, then bring it to Religious Affair in Kuala Lumpur. After finishing all the process in Malaysia, we have to register the marriage plan to Malaysian embassy in Indonesia (Jakarta). The documents from embassy will be needed for multi-country marriage and legal certificate in both places. Not only that, I and my fiance also must attend all the process together. It can’t be done by one party. It’s so really hard to find the right time and arrange meeting with the officers.
The most important thing from our stories is... how we can so sure that He/ She will be the one. In the early, I didn’t intend our friendship to be a couple. We didn’t put expectation on each other. By the time, we had vision like why didn't we try something fun? Like we did sport together, hanging out in bookstore, watching movie, playing in arcade game. It was exciting and brought some chemistry, especially when we talk about unnecessary things, I still wonder why he wanted to listen my babbling about tax policy, politic issue, global warming and many other weird topics. Crazy person will atrack some normal people in sexy way. I think so hahaha.
The idea of being couple is creating a team with function companionship and support system for long life. We should have willing to compromise and discussing difficult matters in marriage. I hope we can always get along and last till jannah (Amin). The climax of our deep conversation get to the peak when we made budgeting for wedding ceremony (akad). It will drain bunch of cash for catering, decoration, invitation, groom and bride attire, make up and etc. I briefly ask him to cover for the wedding, and he agreed for the term. Behind of his responsibility on the money, I have to navigate the cash flow. Make sure it ‘s safe and not over from his budget.
Our vision in the future are having healthy relationship and compatible to manage personal issue. Some goals to achive with specific deadline such as make one year saving, emergency fund, and sinking fund. Another wishing list on the bucket consider bonus, but we still put high expectation to travel abroad, take higher education (Master), and Hajj pilgrimage. Those are some sneak peak of our dreams together. May Allah grant us with bless and much more hapiness.
As you can see, marriage is hard. I suggest you to discuss more important subjects with your spouse before tied the knot. You can’t redo your pass, but we can prepare before the last!!
Here I attach some of the principal points before deciding to get married:
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